“Brain scans have revealed that being ignored is neurologically similar to experiencing a mental breakdown & or psychosis.” -Psychofactz
One of my anxieties is being left out or completely ignored. My brother also has this exact same fear, but his may even be worse than mine.
For some reason, it just sets me off and really hurts my feelings. Then, I tend to lash out and look desperate in the end.
If you’ve ever been ignored, then you know exactly what I’m talking about. Being helpless isn’t fun and it’s definitely not good for your self-esteem.
Here’s 5 Ways to Get the Upper-hand When Being Ignored:
1. Ignore them.
My father for some reason feels the need to block my phone calls and text messages when we are fighting. To me, this feels like the ultimate betrayal. I mean who blocks their own kids’ calls. Most of the time it’s the other way around.
In order to cope with the situation, I’ve realized it’s best to just block his calls and messages, too. I’m not saying this is the proper way to deal with it, but it gives me peace of mind. This way I give myself a bit of a break from him and don’t drive myself crazy. If you’re anything like me, then you’re checking your phone non-stop to see when the person ignoring you is going to text or call back.
2. Pre-occupy yourself with other hobbies.
Whether the guy you’re dating won’t respond or your brother’s mad at you, just get your mind to a good place. You can do this by reading a book, cleaning house, going to the movies, hanging out with friends or cooking. Really, it’s whatever works best for you.
You’ll be so busy having fun, you’ll forget about the person altogether!
3. Cut them out of your life.
In the past, I dated some horrible men. Their idea of giving me a hint was to simply ignore my phone calls and text messages until I went away.
Looking back, I wonder why I put up with that behavior for so long. If someone truly cares about you, they won’t ignore you and cause you to feel emotional pain.
Instead, tell them adios! There’s plenty of fish in the sea.
4. Do NOT blow them up.
As a young and dumb college student, I scared many boys away by acting too desperate. If they were ignoring me, I would blow them up with phone calls, voicemails and text messages.
In the end, I always looked like the crazy person instead of the hurt young girl that I was.
When it comes to being ignored, it’s definitely not fun and can really hurt your feelings. The above tips should be able to really help you overcome that rejection and enjoy your life.